the woman in Dear Abby who married a handsome successful mortician

  on their wedding night, he made her soak in a tub of ice water until her skin was freezing to the touch, and then he made her lie in bed completely still while he had intercourse with her cold inert body.

 this woman had done this as a newlywed, and gone on to do it for the next ten years of marriage 

and now she was writing to Dear Abby to ask if Abby thought it meant something