If an apology is followed by an excuse or a reason, it means they are going to commit same mistake again they just apologized for

 

Comedy aims at representing men as worse than in actual life 

Tragedy aims at representing men as better than in actual life 

When you come to the edge of all that you know, you must believe one of two things

 

either there will be ground to stand on, 

or you will be given wings to fly.

Friends conspiracies

The Psychiatric Ward Theory:  

all six friends are actually patients in a psychiatric hospital. Central Perk is the hospital cafeteria, their apartments are individual hospital wards, and their neat, happy endings (fame, family, wealth, marriage) are just coping mechanisms for their deepest psychological traumas

The entire show mostly recycles the exact same four or five indoor spaces (their apartments and the coffee shop). In this reading, Central Perk is the hospital cafeteria, the open field where they play football is the fenced-in institutional yard, and their codependent, insular behavior is the result of being cut off from the real world and terrified that someone will be discharged or taken away. Each character represents a specific, exaggerated personality disorder or psychological archetype

Perhaps instead of being six single adults living in New York, the friends are simply six patients in a psychiatric ward living out their dream lives together. Each of them has a trigger incident that lead to their admission: Monica’s damage from her mother, Ross’ trust and abandonment issues, Chandler's parents’ divorce and their bitter relationship, Joey’s unhealthy relationship with women, Phoebe’s troubling childhood, and Rachel’s realizations and running out on her wedding.

It certainly explains why they spent more of their time sat talking in a coffee house than actually at their jobs

 

Phoebe's Homeless Delusion: 

 Phoebe never escaped the streets. Instead, the entire 10-season series is just a meth-addled or cold-weather hallucination of a homeless Phoebe staring through the window of Central Perk, imagining an idealized life for herself and the strangers inside

Staring through the window of Central Perk, a destitute and traumatized Phoebe watches a group of well-off, attractive young people. To cope with her severe isolation and tragic past (such as her mother's suicide and growing up on the streets), she imagines herself inside their group, creating a safe, loving fantasy life. Theorists point to her odd, out-of-place skill sets—like mysteriously knowing multiple languages or showing flashes of hidden genius despite no formal education—as pieces of her real intelligence leaking into her daydream

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Maybe Phoebe was the smartest member of the group, but maybe she also came up with the whole thing in her head!

One of the more depressing theories of the series is that none of it actually happened. A homeless Phoebe was just looking through the window of the coffee house and making up stories about the five people who sat there (who thought of her as “the lady who stares at us.”) All of their lives and relationships were just part of the personas that Phoebe created.

Afterward, she walks away, sees her reflection in a restaurant called “Ursula” before walking back to her park bench. It starts to rain, and she puts up a brightly colored umbrella. All the poor woman ever wanted was friends.

Rachel's Anxiety Dream: 

 the entire show takes place inside Rachel Green's head on the night before she leaves Barry at the altar in the pilot episode, playing out as a massive, subconscious anxiety dream about what her life would be like if she broke away from her wealthy upbringing

On a classic DVD box set cover art, Rachel is the only character with her eyes open while the other five characters sleep. Fans theorized that she was partially waking up from a massive panic-induced fantasy designed to let her escape a trapped, spoiled life of wealth and a loveless marriage

They’re All Just Day-Dreaming High Schoolers

Going again on the “it was all in someone’s head” theme, this idea suggests that the lives of the Friends that we see are just the daydreams of six high schoolers.

The reasoning for this is that the six of them, despite going through several ups and downs, all end up achieving their goals in adult life. They all have family, romance, and jobs 

While there isn’t a lot of evidence to support this, especially as Phoebe didn’t attend high school, it does explain the wishful thinking of the friends and the way it all works out in the end.

Phoebe as a Secret Agent: 

 Phoebe Buffay's strange survival skills, fluency in multiple languages, and evasive past point to her being a covert operative—either a secret CIA or KGB agent

The Ross Custody Mystery: 

Fans have long pointed out that Ross's son, Ben, completely vanishes from the show after Season 8. A dark fan theory claims Ross lost custody due to his escalating erratic behavior after the divorce and the birth of Emma

Ben is Ross’ son who his ex-wife Carol gives birth at the end of series one. Despite playing a big part in the early seasons of the show, he appears less and less as time passes. After the twelfth episode of season eight, The One Where Joey Dates Rachel, he is never seen again and mentioned rarely.

Ross certainly isn’t father of the year. When looking after Ben, he often leaves him in the care of his friends (who do things like leave him on the bus and teach him pranks.) Even when he sticks around, he does things like trying to stop Ben playing with his favourite Barbie! With that and his rage issues and his treatment of women,  Carol could have won full custody.

That Monica is the result of Judy cheating on her husband 

Judy’s treatment of her daughter throughout the series is downright terrible! More than once in the series she dismisses the idea of Monica ever having a family, which is especially wounding since a family is something Monica has always wanted.

While Judy could just be a terrible person, it’s been suggested that her mistreatment of her daughter actually comes from her own regrets.

That Monica is the result of Judy stepping out on her husband! Because of this, Judy resented Monica as she was a constant reminder of her betrayal. Her constant harassment is her taking out her anger towards her decisions on Monica.

There is a theory that Judy had an affair with Richard - which means Richard had both Mother and Daughter, which Judy of course knows but Monica doesn't 

And the idea that Richard is the father of Monica - of course not - however it means that Judy had more than one affair, one Monica's father, two Richard, so potentially more 

Did she have an affair with Dr Green for example

And if so, what if Dr Green is Monica's father - making Monica and Rachel half sisters all along - and maybe Judy isn't completely aware of this Mama Mia style, she just knows it isn't Jack 

Emily Had Ross’ Baby

During season five, we see a lot less of Emily. Emily appeared in only fourteen episodes of the show and in season five, after the wedding episode, was seen only on a bed or with a suspicious pillow on her lap…

The reason for this is that actor Helen Baxendale was written out sooner than planned due to her real-life pregnancy. But it’s because of this that some fans think that Emily knew she was pregnant with Ross’ baby. She planned on telling him after the wedding but was too devastated by him saying Rachel. After trying to make her relationship with Ross work, she eventually decided not to tell him.

Phoebe And Joey Were Seeing Each Other

A question Friends fans ask every now and then: Why didn’t Phoebe and Joey get together? The rest of the gang seems to pair off and the two seem perfect for one another in many ways.

Well, in this theory put forward by Matt LeBlanc himself, the two had been together over the whole run!

It makes sense; the two of them often have casual relationships rather than committed ones. They’re never bothered by the other looking at them in a manner and they could easily have hidden it from the rest of the gang. It also adds another layer to Phoebe asking Joey to give her away at her wedding, as if she were closing the door on their relationship.

Emma And Ben Aren’t Ross’ Biological Children

Maybe Ross dyes his hair. maybe it’s something a lot more interesting than that! Some fans have suggested that the reason why Ross looks nothing like either of his children is that he isn’t really their father.

It’s thought (by some) that Carol and Susan tricked Ross into thinking he was Ben’s father, possible for his money or possibly to make keeping custody of a child easier, due to the lack of gay rights in the nineties.

As for Emma, maybe Rachel really believed that Ross was the father and was just wrong. Either that or she didn’t know who the real father was and thought it would be easier on Emma.

  

People who fit don’t seek. 

The seekers are those that don’t fit

 

Philosophers  know nothing about everything. 

Scientists know everything about nothing.

 

Philosophers are people who know less and less about more and more, 

until they know nothing about everything. 

Scientists are people who know more and more about less and less,

 until they know everything about nothing.

 

Without man and his potential for moral progress, 

the whole of reality would be a mere wilderness, 

a thing in vain, 

and have no final purpose

 

Thoughts without content are empty, 

intuitions without concepts are blind

  

He who cannot obey himself will be commanded. 

That is the nature of living creatures

 Is there any knowledge in the world which is so certain 

that no reasonable man could doubt it?

 

Oxygen is the human body's fuel. 

It powers our brains, organs, and bodily tissues.

 Without a proper supply, our bodies can't function. 

Our brains, hearts, and kidneys can only tolerate a lack of oxygen for a limited time before their cells begin to die: 

about five minutes for the brain, 

about thirty for the heart and kidneys. 

When a patient loses oxygen, doctors know the clock is ticking. 

When a patient codes or loses their airway, a doctor's first priority is to get oxygen flowing.

  a limited time before damage sets in, so  spring into action. 

But in life, time limits aren't as clear.

 It can be hard to gauge whether it's better to hurry up or take things slow. 

We don't always know how much time we have before the clock runs out on opportunity.

 Often, we can't even be sure if our time's passed.

 All we can do is cease the present.

 

We suffer more 

in Imagination 

than we do 

in Reality 

 Fallen leaves 

lying on the grass in the November sun 

bring more happiness 

than the daffodils

 November always seems to be 

the Norway of the year

November

 

November is the eleventh and penultimate month of the year in the Julian and Gregorian Calendars, 

the last of four months to have a length of 30 days 

and the fifth and last of five months to have a length of fewer than 31 days.

 November was the ninth month of the calendar of Romulus c. 750 BC.

 November retained its name (from the Latin novem meaning "nine") when January and February were added to the Roman calendar.

The Western zodiac signs for November are Scorpio (October 23 – November 21) and Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

November's birthstone is the topaz (particularly, yellow) which symbolizes friendship and the citrine.

 Its birth flower is the chrysanthemum

In the Imperial period, the deity who often represents November in Roman art is Isis. The festival of Isis, which began October 28, continued through November 3. The Isia is first recorded on the menologia rustica, which date to the reign of either Caligula (36–39 AD) or Claudius (41–54).

Blodmonath was the Anglo-Saxon month of November. It means 'blood month' or 'month of sacrifice'. During the festival of Blodmonath, people made offerings to the gods by sacrificing their animals.

 

This is the month of nuts and nutty thoughts 

that November whose name sounds so bleak and cheerless 

perhaps its harvest of thought 

is worth more than all the other crops of the year

November Rain - Song by Guns N' Roses

 

When I look into your eyes
I can see a love restrained
But darlin' when I hold you
Don't you know I feel the same?

Nothin' lasts forever
And we both know hearts can change
And it's hard to hold a candle
In the cold November rain

We've been through this such a long long time
Just tryin' to kill the pain, ooh yeah
Love is always coming, love is always going
No one's really sure who's lettin' go today
Walking away

If we could take the time to lay it on the line
I could rest my head just knowin' that you were mine
All mine
So if you want to love me then darlin' don't refrain
Or I'll just end up walkin' in the cold November rain

Do you need some time on your own?
Do you need some time all alone?
Ooh, everybody needs some time on their own
Ooh, don't you know you need some time all alone

I know it's hard to keep an open heart
When even friends seem out to harm you
But if you could heal a broken heart
Wouldn't time be out to charm you?
Oh, oh, oh

Sometimes I need some time on my own
Sometimes I need some time all alone
Ooh, everybody needs some time on their own
Ooh, don't you know you need some time all alone

And when your fears subside
And shadows still remain, oh yeah
I know that you can love me when there's no one left to blame
So never mind the darkness, we still can find a way
'Cause nothin' lasts forever, even cold November rain

Don't ya think that you need somebody?
Don't ya think that you need someone?
Everybody needs somebody
You're not the only one
You're not the only one

 

The thinnest yellow light of November 

is more warming and exhilarating 

than any wine they tell of 

The mite which November contributes 

becomes equal in value 

to the bounty of July

 

Peering from some high window, 

at the gold of November sunset 

and feeling that if day has to become night, 

this is a beautiful way

November

 

November

  

November

The Centaur, Sagittarius, am I, 
Born of Ixion's and the cloud's embrace; 
With sounding hoofs across the earth I fly, 
A steed Thessalian with a human face.
 
Sharp winds the arrows are with which I chase 
The leaves, half dead already with affright; 
I shroud myself in gloom; and to the race 
Of mortals bring nor comfort nor delight.
 

 

November 

The noons are more laconic 

and the sunsets sterner  

 November is chill, frosted mornings 

with a silver sun rising behind the trees,

 red cardinals at the feeders, 

and squirrels running scallops along the tops of the gray stone walls

 

In November you begin to know how long the winter will be

November is auspicious in so many parts of the country: 

the rice harvest is already in, 

the weather starts to cool, 

and the festive glow which precedes Christmas 

has began to brighten the landscape

 

 

We mourn the blossoms of May because they are to whither;

 but we know that May is one day to have its revenge upon November, by the revolution of that solemn circle which never stops 

— which teaches us in our height of hope, ever to be sober, and in our depth of desolation, never to despair

 

October is its sunset sky; 

November the later twilight

Witches of Halloween

 

Words and Pictures The Witches of Halloween

Words and Pictures The Witches of Halloween

Words and Pictures The Witches of Halloween 1

Happy Samhain

 

Samhain is observed from sunset on October 31st to sunset on November 1st. 

It is the celebration that is the origin of Halloween. 

Samhain was first observed by Celtic Pagans. 

Samhain marked the Celtic New Year, the end of summer, and the end of the harvest season

October 31 became known as All Hallows Eve, or Halloween, and contained much of the traditional pagan practices before being adopted in 19th-century America through Irish immigrants bringing their traditions across the ocean

For the Celts, who lived during the Iron Age in what is now Ireland, Scotland, the U.K. and other parts of Northern Europe, Samhain (meaning literally, in modern Irish, “summer's end”) marked the end of summer and kicked off the Celtic new year

According to the later Dindsenchas and the Annals of the Four Masters—which were written by Christian monks—Samhain in ancient Ireland was associated with a god or idol called Crom Cruach.

Samhain, also known as the origin of Halloween, was a powerful and special demon of Hell and was one of the 66 Seals. He could only rise when summoned by two powerful witches through three blood sacrifices over three days, with the last sacrifice day on the final harvest, Halloween.

If we define it as a celebration of the pre-Christianization or kind of the Mexican Day of the Dead or the Irish Samhain, the Viking did have that kind of celebration. The Vikings themselves had the celebrations called the Blóts

In addition to being a time to honor family members, friends and pets who have passed away, Samhain is the final harvest holiday and marks the end—and therefore beginning—of a new cycle on the Wheel. Most Wiccans believe in reincarnation and view death as simply another stage of life.

The name Halloween comes from a Scottish shortening of All Hallows' Eve 

In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor saints. Soon after, All Saints Day came to incorporate some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before All Saints Day was known as All Hallows Eve, and later, Halloween.

Many Christians believe that participating in Halloween is a form of involvement in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness, which is forbidden in Scripture: Ephesians 5:7-15. Don't participate in the things these people do. For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord

On the night of October 31 they celebrated Samhain, when it was believed that the ghosts of the dead returned to earth. In addition to causing trouble and damaging crops, Celts thought that the presence of the otherworldly spirits made it easier for the Druids, or Celtic priests, to make predictions about the future.

Samhain was known in Ireland as the “Lord of Darkness”. The Druid religion was practiced by ancient Celtic tribes that populated Ireland and parts of Europe. This religion worshipped Samhain, the Lord of Darkness. Some writings also speak of Samhain as the “Lord of the Dead”

All Hallows Eve eventually became Halloween. “Although All Saints Day is actually on November 1, the Celts began their festivals at sunset, so the holiday began on the evening before (Oct. 31)

 

Until pretty recently, doctors would slap a newborn on the back immediately after birth. It's not that they wanted to make the baby cry. They needed the baby to cry. It meant the baby could breathe on her own. Thankfully, we don't do that anymore. But we still hold our own breath until we hear that cry.  And it doesn't matter if you're the baby's doctor or mother. It's the most beautiful sound in the world. The first time, anyway. The first minute in a baby's life is the most terrifying. In that minute, a million tiny air sacks have to perfectly open and fill with air.  It's a pretty traumatizing way of entering the real world. In that minute, your whole world stops. It's as if time stands still. And if I'm being honest, that minute is pure hell. But fortunately, most of the time, crying starts, the baby's okay, and the rest of us in the room can finally breathe again.

 

You know how the tightrope guy at the circus wants everyone to believe his act is an art,

 but deep down you can see that he's really just hoping he makes it all the way across?

 Good and bad 

are but names 

very readily transferable 

to that or this

Poe

 

October 

Vassago: Ulalume

Vassago: Ulalume

November 

Vassago: Lenore

Vassago: Lenore - Edgar Allan Poe

December 

Vassago: The Raven 

Vassago: "The Raven" by Edgar Allan Poe

Vassago: Annabel Lee

Vassago: Annabel Lee - Edgar Allan Poe

Vassago: The Tell-Tale Heart - Edgar Allan Poe

Vassago: "Ligeia" short story by Edgar Allan Poe

Vassago: The Haunted Palace

Vassago: The City In The Sea

Vassago: To One in Paradise - Poe

Vassago: The Lake

Vassago: "Morella" is a short story by Edgar Allan Poe.

Vassago: "Eleonora" - short story by Edgar Allan Poe

Vassago: "Berenice" is a short story by Edgar Allan Poe,

October Hunter’s Moon

 

Hunter's Moon - Monday, October 26, 2026

 The full Hunter's Moon in October 2026 peaks on Monday, October 26, 2026, at 4:12 a.m. BST

The Hunter's Moon is also a reminder of the changing seasons and the inexorable march of time. As the autumn leaves fall and winter approaches, the full moon serves as a symbol of nature's rhythm and the importance of preparation for the colder months ahead.

October's Hunter's Moon was given its name because it was at this time when tribes gathered meat for the long winter ahead. June's Strawberry moon received its name because many strawberries were commonly harvested at that month.

After the September harvest moon comes the October Hunter's moon, in the preferred month to hunt summer-fattened deer and fox unable to hide in bare fields. 

Like the harvest moon, the hunter's moon is also particularly bright and long in the sky, giving hunters the opportunity to stalk prey at night.

It gets its name from Farmer's Almanac, which states that it's hunting season when the leaves fall and the deer are fat. Hunters can clearly see the animals that have come out to glean because the harvesters have already reaped the fields. Other names for it include Blood Moon, Dying Grass Moon, and Travel Moon.

The Hunter's Moon is a potent period for magical and spiritual activities. Its significance lies in the amplified energies from the thinning veil between the physical and spiritual worlds, making it a powerful time for crafting or charging magical tools like wands, athames, or pentacles.

In European traditions, the Hunter's Moon has also been associated with hunting, feasting, and festivities. The full moon often played a role in the timing of various activities, from sowing seeds to butchering livestock. Many cultures took advantage of the bright moonlight for communal gatherings and fun

Any Moon near the horizon will appear bigger because the horizon provides more size perspective. It's called the Moon Illusion. When you look at a full moon near the horizon, it often looks more red or orange because the light rays have to travel further into the atmosphere before they get to you

Because the approach of winter signaled the possibility of going hungry in pre-Industrial times, the Hunter's Moon was generally accorded with special honor, historically serving as an important feast day in both northern Europe and among many Native American tribes.

The Hunter's Moon is also a reminder of the changing seasons and the inexorable march of time. As the autumn leaves fall and winter approaches, the full moon serves as a symbol of nature's rhythm and the importance of preparation for the colder months ahead.

The "harvest moon" (also known as the "barley moon" or "full corn moon") is the full moon nearest to the autumnal equinox (22 or 23 September), occurring anytime within two weeks before or after that date. The "hunter's moon" is the full moon following it. The names are recorded from the early 18th century.

The Hunter's Moon can sometimes appear red or orange in color, due to the way that sunlight is scattered by the Earth's atmosphere. This is especially common when the moon is low in the sky, such as during sunrise and sunset.

Some Native American tribes call the moon the "Travel Moon," or the "Dying Grass Moon." The Hunter's Moon is associated with the final harvest and was a signal to begin preparing for winter. It is an excellent time to focus your magic on psychic abilities, transformation, cleansing, protection, and banishment

This moon marked a crucial time for hunters to store up meat before winter. The Hunter's Moon also was considered a feast day for Native Americans and many Western Europeans.